What is Swinging?

“A form of recreational social sex between consenting adults, most commonly consisting of male/female couples meeting other male/female couples for sex and/or ongoing intimate friendships”

Swinging is a lifestyle that is adopted by many couples, it started out in the 1940’s and 50’s as ‘wife swapping’. Modern day swinging however is much more than that, it is a social activity and can encompass a variety of acts and occasions. It gives people the chance, once within their swinging circle, to enjoy being naked or to be dressed in outfits in front of others, and to enjoy multiple partners without risk of being judged, a chance to live for a short space of time without inhibitions and to freely explore the erotic side of themselves and of the relationship that they are in.

There are three basic types of swinging. There are the ‘open swingers’ – this is basically wife swapping where two couples swap partners and have sex in the same room, so that as well as having sex they can view their partner having sex as well. There is ‘closed swinging’ where two couples swap partners to have sex but this time they do it in separate rooms. And lastly there is ‘soft swinging’ where couples have sex with each other but in view of other couples or people.

A lot of single people would like to become involved in the swinging scene, however, the basic definition of partner swapping would indicate that you would have to have a partner to swap in the first place. However there is a place for singles, in particular single bisexual girls are accepted by a lot of couples to engage with them in threesomes. Single men wishing to become involved are accepted but they will find that the number of couples just looking for a man to join them to be much lower than those looking for another couple or girl If you do ever attend a swingers party or go to a swingers club, then there are a general set of ‘swingers rules’ that people should stick to – these rules are covered later on, however the social side of any swingers party is pretty much the same as with any other kind of social occasion. You will be meeting new people, you will be talking to new people, you will be making friends with new people – the difference with a swinging party is that when you talk to new people it is acceptable to flirt and be risqué, when you meet new people and try make friends do not worry if they are doing so to try and get closer to you or your partner merely to have sex with them, that is what swinging is

Swinging Rules

1. Before you attend a swingers party or a swinging club, decide what you want to get out of it before hand. Think about how far you are prepared to go, consider if you would really enjoy it and whether you partner would enjoy it. Are you going for your own reasons or are you doing it to keep your partner happy – would the reality of having sex or watching your partner having sex with someone else be different to your fantasy, if you are in any doubt, don’t do it. If you are still determined to go ahead and try then set a limit for your first time, go along and see what others do, if you feel like joining in then agree to only do so much. Allow yourselves to get used to it as individuals and as a couple and talk to each other

2. Remember that no means no, if you approach a couple or singleton and you are told ‘no’ then please respect their decision. It equally applies to those approaching you as well, do not let yourself get into a situation you do not want or do not feel comfortable with just because you felt obliged or were scared to say no

3. Protection should be your first and foremost consideration if you want to start swinging. Never leave anything to chance and always insist, even if you know the people involved

4. Personal hygiene is important at all times, but none more so than if you are expecting to have sex, oral or full, with a stranger, so please make sure you are clean and if you like to keep your body hair trimmed then ensure you are looking your best beforehand

5. Don’t be offended if someone you don’t fancy approaches you, everyone involved in swinging is in it for the same reason as you, to have sex, and so they have as much right to make themselves available as you do. Equally, do not be offended if your partner gets approached but you do not, different couples will want different experiences, instead of feeling left out or jealous, a simple no, as explained above, will be enough

6. Make sure that you and your partner are looking for the same things in another couple or person. Decide on what physical characteristics you would like them to have, tall, short, big dick, small tits, younger, older same age? - the list is endless. If you are very particular then it is best to join a swingers site like NSA Contacts where you can search for individual characteristics even with a couple

7. Decide how far you are prepared to go, do you want to engage in open swinging where you partner swap with another couple and all have sex in the same room, perhaps closed swinging where you partner swap but this time have sex in separate rooms. Maybe you would just like to try soft swinging where you and your partner have sex while being watched by others or while another couple has sex at the same time

8. If you have joined NSA Contacts then congratulations, this is an easy way of making contact with other swinging couples or with single people wishing to join the swinging scene. By creating a profile at NSA Contacts you can be as specific about who you are and what you are looking for as you like, you can specify whether you are looking for heterosexual or bisexual couples or individuals, you can specify how far you are prepared to travel to meet people, you can search for people with certain physical attributes. But if you do decide to contact someone always explain exactly what you would like to get out of the occasion, agree any boundaries or things you do not do, equally if you really would like to try something, say so, there is no point in turning up and just hoping the guy has a 10 inch dick or that the woman loves anal sex – set it out before you meet

9. Communication is key, make sure that you and your partner have discussed going into swinging very carefully and at length before you try, swinging shouldn’t be done on a whim. Keep on talking as well before, during and after each event you attend, maybe one of you didn’t get as much out of it as first thought, or perhaps just talking about your swinging experiences will enhance your personal sex lives

10. Your first swingers meet can be a nervous time for any couple, if you attend a club or party then you will be confronted by many new people engaging in sexual acts, something you don’t tend to see in everyday life!! Most people engaged in these acts do not mind being watched, or if they do then they will make it clear. If when watching you wish to join them, then make sure you catch the eye of the person first and ask, always get a clear yes before trying to join in with them.

11. What do you wear to a swingers club or party? Well, sex is the name of the game at these venues so it seems obvious to say - dress sexy. This can mean anything to different people, but as long as you feel confident and sexy then that is all that counts. Remember that if you are attending a swingers club or a swingers party, and you wish to join in with the proceedings, then your underwear will also be visible to others, even if it is just for a short time, so make sure you have got nice ones on – guys, that means no old saggy y fronts!

12. If you meet a swinging couple or a single here on NSA Contacts remember to organize a time that suits all parties. Do you prefer sex during the day or at night, make sure it is at an appropriate time of the month for the ladies involved, will everyone be available on that day? Make sure once the time and place is organized to try and relax beforehand, stress may well hinder your performance or enjoyment

These hints are very general and each couple or individual wanting to get involved with swinging will always get something different out of it, just remember to relax as much as possible, plan any meeting and most of all – enjoy it